Yeah I think I just did. After examining our conversation I have reached the conclusion that you have something called a "victim mentality." I would explain it, but other have already done so in a much better way. This is not an insult but an actual personality and your conversation shows you fit in...
(I don't know how to get rid of the bold or make the text smaller and I am too lazy to re-type it)
"They tend to manipulate or abuse others verbally or physically, but then blame the other person (i.e. the real victim) for provoking the abuse."
I started the conversation showing a report where one of your players attacked one of my players. Then you proceed to call me cocky and my alliance weak and then blame me for being cocky. However all I said was "We could have arranged for a city trade". Not even a demand, just a proposal. The only way this can be viewed as being cocky is if you have a "victim mentality."
https://healthpsychologyconsultancy.wordpress.com/2012/10/26/the-victim-personality/